By Lizzie Booth
I’m not green-fingered. At all. In fact my fingers seem to have somewhat of the touch of death about them where plants are concerned. In my teens I had a beautiful rose-themed room filled with (wait for it) cactus after cactus after cactus. They were the only plants I could keep alive long enough to enjoy. Imagine my horror when a dearly loved acquaintance presented me with the gift of an orchid. My first words, granted, should have been, “Will you mind it undergoing a slow and painful death at my hands?” Being solidly British however, I responded with the obligatory, “Thank you so much, it’s beautiful!”
I’ve never been able to figure out how to take care of it, but I’ve had a good go. Much to my utter amazement it re-flowered after a year. My flabber was gasted. My a was mazed. Renewed fervour filled my soul and with diligence and love I cared for it faithfully, month after month.
Months turned into years and still nothing. Hope faded like the green of its once verdant leaves, and that was when the inner struggle started. Should I hold onto hope, despite all appearances, trusting that, whatever happens, I have at least been faithful to this living thing, wholly dependent on me for any chance at life? Or should I let it die, knowing that the chance of it bursting to brilliance again lessens with each passing season? Life has taught me that the more we hold onto hope the more painful disappointment can be. The temptation to let a dream, a hope, a passion, a vision die can be overwhelming.
It seems to me that one of the most important questions in life is, ‘Is it time to hold on or time to let go?’ Looking back, my major joys and heartaches have been rooted in getting that right or getting it wrong. Knowing, as Red says in the film The Shawshank Redemption, that in each difficult situation we must get busy living or get busy dying. The poet king Solomon said a similar thing when he was pondering the nature of life, the universe and everything. It’s from the book of Ecclesiastes in the bible, chapter 3:
“There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to plant and a time to uproot,
a time to kill and a time to heal,
a time to tear down and a time to build,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to scatter stones and a time to gather them,
a time to embrace and a time to refrain,
a time to search and a time to give up,
a time to keep and a time to throw away,
a time to tear and a time to mend,
a time to be silent and a time to speak,
a time to love and a time to hate,
a time for war and a time for peace.”
Knowing the time we are in is so vital. We cause ourselves unnecessary pain when we are unable to let go of things that we need to and rob ourselves of much joy when we fail to hold on, fearing the cost of hope, when new life and beauty is closer than we could have imagined.
Below is a picture I just took of my orchid, what it looks like today, how it’s doing, proof of whether or not I was right to keep going with it. Have a look at the photo now, if you haven’t already.

It’s what you hoped you’d see, isn’t it?
Yeah, me too.
Lizzie Booth lives in the charmingly English county of Hampshire, where she teaches drama and helps with the leadership of West Basingstoke Community Church.
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